Today Marks the Day that My daughter finally has turned 1!
Mind you, this is one of those things that is bittersweet to me.
I’m not going to go into crazy details for this one, as I’m working on posting more about my journey as being a dad, a new dad at that.
So here we go lets get into it!
She Holds me Accountable
Yes, she is 1.
Someone this little girl tells me all of the time, to cut the crap and get things done. With all of her personality, she gives me the one side eye’d look that is a bit intimidating. For me, I never knew that a baby could intimidate a man (I mean I’m a big guy too).
One of the biggest changes that I’ve seen is that shift in thinking. They say that when you become a parent, in order to truly be the best parent, you start thinking for more than just yourself.
This is so true its ridiculous!
My mindset has changed so much over the last year, in the best possible way. Mind you, I’ve always wanted to be a dad (Not only do I have the little one, I am a Step-Dad to Two pretty awesome boys).
It is a bit different than being just a step dad, because you have this weird connection with a bundle of joy. However, technically I have been a dad for nearly 3 years now (And still am learning a ton!).
My daughter drives me to do a lot more than I thought I would be capable of, and then some.
I’ve Shifted to Become More of a Stay at Home Dad
See this is the tricky part, I’ve shifted to mainly be a stay at home dad.
The majority of what I do for a living consists of me writing, or designing websites. Both of which can be very sparatic, luckily I have an amazing woman to support me in all of this hectic craziness.
So, I am home generally throughout the entire week, taking care of everything that needs to done (Most of the time), and working on making this Blog my full time career.
Which is why, I shifted to focus solely on motivation, inspiration, and a bit more for Parents, Dads and Step-Parents.
For me, this has been the hardest thing to adjust to. Where on one hand, I get to spend most of my time with the little one, and not miss anything. The other hand however, is a lot of craziness. I enjoy being a provider, giver, etc. etc. and take it really hard when I don’t feel like I’m contributing.
This goes to show you, I’m no superman either.
Luckily, I am working on being extremely serious about writing for you guys, and sharing my journey.
The First Punishment
Oh how this was tough.
Even though you might think that this little person can do no bad (I swear she can’t) we still have to teach right and wrong.
This year, whether it was little things being taken or the stern “NO” she has to learn, and not be completely spoiled.
I’ve always wanted a daughter, mind you, so I wasn’t prepared for this part. Somehow the natural instinct of being a parent has been able to come out, and not necessarily be too crazy either.
This has brought me so many different feelings, especially thinking that I’m going to be able to help shape this little humans mind.
Mind you, Now having done this for a year (Again no expert), I’ve began to have a solid grasp on things for the most part.
What My Parenting (Dad) Goals are for the Next Year
So this one is a bit more tricky, but at the same time it can change constantly. I want to be able to be transparent with what I want to accomplish in the realm of being a dad this upcoming year.
Firstly, we are getting into the holiday season. This means the first “True” Holiday’s with the little one. Where I’m a bit nervous about how it is going to pan out (As we are wanting to create our own traditions), I’m excited.
Getting through the holiday’s this year is going to be a task, but I feel that my goal is to really make it memorable not just for the little one, but the boys as well.
From here, comes the possibility of moving. We have been weighing our options as to move from our current house or not, but who knows at this point.
This is a bit tricky, since we are also getting married next June as well (True Step-Dad Time, and Husband).
Where you might think that it would be overwhelming (it is), I’m trying to figure out this whole wedding planning ordeal as well.
The next year is going to be hectic for sure.
I would say the biggest thing that I want to accomplish is being better overall Husband, Dad and Step-Dad.
There are a ton of things that I do have to work on, for myself as well. However, I’m confident that I will be able to do some pretty solid things for this next year. My daughter isn’t getting younger (1 Year Shots Today!), and is growing too quickly! However, I want to ensure that I am the best that I can be for the whole family.
With me being able to put my best foot forward, I can be the best for them.
A Quick Thought
Being a parent is hard, but the real task is when you see who they’ve become.
One thing that I have learned through life is that no matter what, your children are watching. Who are they going to see?
Thank you everyone so much for reading to this point! This will be the first portion of the My Journey as a Dad category on The Evolutionary Mind. I’m working hard to be able to produce content for you, and to be able to help in any way that I can.
No matter what, you’re not alone.
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